Hi I am a young woman in my late twenties who has a partner who is MtF transgender. I live in a liberal but small university town.

I think that there is very little help and information for the partners of transgender people. This blog is aimed at introducing partners to some transgender issues. A lot of this info is scattered across websites but when you are in a panic and need help, searching for hours on the internet is not necessarily helpful.

This is not a information page for transgender people. It is information for partners.

My partner said that a lot of the info and tone of writing is naive and too generalised. I think it has to be. Everyone will have a different situation. I have given some anecdotes that I hope help.

I have provided links on the “links” page. These give much more information about surgery, trans issues, forums etc.

please feel free to pass on stories or info.

5 Responses to Welcome

  1. Hi, I love your site. I am living with my beautiful “hubby” currently transitioning to be my wife and I am besotted with her. I have been in the press telling the world how in love I am google victoria and Treva Askey, I have wrote a book Too Deep it’s about the difficulties we have had etc and I was wondering if you can link my website where you can buy my book via a link to kindle and lulu. And can I link your page to my links page. Please take a look and have a read, it is a no holds barred journal. Thank you for being so honest xx

  2. Tam says:

    I am so glad that i have found this website!

    I am only 23 and my partner of a year and a half confessed to me about how he is considering transitioning from Male to female.. it’s a very hard pill to swallow to be very honest.

  3. Robyn January says:

    I am a bit different from you. I’m 65 and married to the same guy for 47 years. We’d been married for 45 years when he came out to me as MtF. BUT the issues seem to be the same. I’m so glad I found your site.

  4. Carla says:

    I am a mtf in a long term marriage. At 60 I came out to my wife two years ago. I am blessed and fortunate her love sees beyond this situation and loves me as a person. Make no mistake, I feel terrible having hidden such a thing from her. It was wrong to do that. — I am reading the comments throughout this wonderful site and see something that is somewhat missing. You cis ladies seem to shoulder all the giving in. Please, I feel it is the trans partner that has to assume the responsibilities for any choices she makes in transition. It is squarely on the shoulders of the trans partner to accept the responsibilities she has created prior to transition. In older trans persons it involves your spouse, children and grandchildren, and in all it involves family, work and social roles. I DO NOT SPEAK FOR OTHER TRANS WOMEN. I speak only for myself. I find this website a godsend not just for my wife but for me too. transgenderpartner has done a fantastic job. She is wise, caring and honest. Keep up the great work. With that, forgive my intrusion if I stepped in uninvited, for I’m not the partner of a trans person.

  5. stephanie says:

    my husband is mtf and its been hard watching her changing to female i have had a hard time at fist when we were both getting dresses as we would be side by side curling our hair and doing our makeup and seeing he walk around the house with a head full of curlers and in bras and panties was a little uncomfortible i will say i like having a girlfriend to shop with and get our hair and nails done together she has spent so much money on clothes and acccessories its not funny but who said becoming a woman is easy. i felt sorry for her at work when so first came out even thou she has long hair curled and does a good job with her makeup and choice of outfits some of the guys there were pretty hateful . i feels kind of different when she snuggles up to me with her soft skin and her breast are now 36c and very sensetive and her penis has really gotten small and doesnt get hard anymore which i miss for sure all her doctor appointments and hormones and hair removal have really been costly i know she is dying to have bottom surgery and not sure how expensive it will be and how long she will be off work learning to love her as herself is different than loving the man i feel in love with yrs ago

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